Building Marriage Capital 💍

#WealthWednesday

TLDR: We just completed a 10-week family life class, and I highly recommend it. Because wealth isn’t just about money—it’s about stewarding what matters most, and marriage is one of the greatest God-given assets we have.

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“Good homes are built on wisdom and understanding. Knowledge fills the rooms with rare and beautiful treasures.” — Proverbs 24:3–4 (ERV)

Money can buy a house, but only wisdom can build a home.

Over the last 10 weeks, we joined a Family Life Program at our church—open to marrieds, singles, daters, and the “it’s complicated” crew alike. It wasn’t just a course; it felt like an investment—a deposit into our marriage capital.

Each session was a mix of scripture, practical teaching, and some honest reflection that made us laugh, think, and sometimes squirm in our seats (in a good, refining kind of way).

Here’s a quick look at what we covered:

💡 Key Takeaways

1. Purposes of God in Marriage
   🧠 This topic alone sent me deep into scripture. I loved the 20 curated Bible verses that helped us align with God’s intention—and reflect on whether we’re living in it.

2. Marriage Covenant
   💍 A reminder that marriage is divine design, not DIY. Like two glued papers—if pulled apart, you can separate them, but not without deep damage.

3. Building a Christian Home
   🏡 Turns out it’s more than just prayer and a Bible on the shelf. Four pillars stood out: a family altar, a church home, clear values, and creating a place of belonging.

4. Communication
   🗣️ Silence is not neutral. We learned that even when we’re not speaking, we’re still communicating. Listening = loving. Levels exist (Are you always on the shallow end?)

5. Conflict Resolution
   ⚔️ Conflict isn’t the enemy; it’s the classroom. Satan has a plan for conflict (division). So does God (growth).

6. Relationships with In-Laws
   👨‍👩‍👧 Sometimes a blessing, sometimes… a stretching opportunity. We learned how to manage these relationships wisely and lovingly.

7. Parenting
   🧒 A full-spectrum session: spiritual, emotional, physical, mental development. Also… parenting types exist. (Are you a parent, child or character centred parent?)

8. Health & Family
   🥦 Health is a family affair. It’s more than just physical. And family planning is more than a whispered conversation in the corner of the pharmacy.

9. Family Finances
   💰 Stewardship, not secrecy. Oneness in finances builds trust and peace. (And reduces the “mysterious” MPESA or bank alerts.)

10. Intimacy
    ❤️‍🔥 Physical intimacy in marriage matters to God—so does emotional, mental and spiritual closeness. God designed it, and He has the best tips.

🌱 Why This Matters

This program reminded us that marriage and family are forms of wealth—entrusted to us, not just for happiness, but holiness. Like financial capital, marriage capital grows when it’s consistently invested in—with God’s wisdom, our faithfulness and a good sense of grace.

It’s been years since pre-marital class, and doing this now helped us reflect, realign and refocus. We walked away with practical tips, deeper unity, and a renewed commitment to steward what God has given us—well.

🔑 Marriage Capital Checklist

Here’s a mini checklist to start stewarding your marriage wealth:

• Reflect on the purpose of your marriage (or future one)

• Build (or rebuild) your family altar

• Check in on your communication rhythms

• Handle conflict with grace and truth

• Clarify your finances and make a shared plan

• Pursue intentional intimacy—all types

• Keep learning, together

Let’s not just invest in financial assets. Let’s invest in our family life. Because a godly marriage isn't just nice to have—it's Kingdom strategy.

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✅ Action Step

If you’re married (or hoping to be), look for a Family Life or Marriage Enrichment program at your local church—or suggest starting one. You don’t have to wait for a crisis to grow. Invest in your marriage today to build lasting wealth—spiritually, emotionally, and relationally—and pass that inheritance to your children’s children.

Sometimes we need space, scripture, and a supportive community to strengthen what remains (Revelation 3:2).

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Got a question or something that’s helped you build marriage or family capital? Drop it in the comments or get in touch — I’d love to hear.

P.S. If you're curious about the program we did or where to find something similar, feel free to reach out privately — happy to share more.